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How To Stop Your Divorce Now
August 19, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Desperate to Stop Your Divorce? Whether you are surviving an affair, struggling to find intimacy in marriage, or just generally saving a marriage, it is a process you must commit to. Below are a couple of tips I got from of the MAGIC OF MAKING UP SYSTEM that will go along way in helping you stop your divorce and go a long way in bringing back marriage intimacy. Eighty to Ninety Percent of the time there is no real reason you can’t get your ex back if you are committed to do so.
The first tip is that you must go deep within yourself and pull yourself up by your bootstraps and show confidence in yourself. The absolute worst thing you can do at this stage is appear needed or clingy. People naturally are put off by needy or clingy people. I don’t mean ignore, be cruel, or even uncaring about your spouse, just take the focus off them as the center of your future life and appear as a confident, independent person – this in and of itself goes a long way in saving a marriage.
The second tip I want to give you is to ask yourself sincerely what has happened to bring you to this point in your life. Was is it a single event, perhaps an affair and you are trying to figure out emotional strategies on surviving an affair or is your spouse the one doing the surviving of an affair? Even if it an affair, there are strategies and processes to heal the relationship if both are committed.
Perhaps it was a series of events over a long time that has dwindled the intimacy in your marriage. How long has it been since you and your spouse have has true marriage intimacy. I don’t just mean sex. I mean talking, being with each, being interested in each other’s well being. But on the subject of sex. A big tactic to stop your divorce is ensuring you and your spouse have a healthy sexual relationship.
As you go through the process of figuring out what has happened remember that in order for you to understand where you are now you must understand what has brought you to this point. You know the old saying… You can’t do the same things and expect different results.
Now in closing I want to tell you of a big no-no. While you establish confidence, do not try devious tactics like trying to make your spouse jealous. That is a terrible thing to do and it shows heavy immaturity on the part of the person working that tactic. Just be self confident, caring, and not needy. Try and talk to your spouse about the reasons the both of you are in this situation and confidently establish a base of common understanding. This is a good place to start in saving a marriage.
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How to Get Your Wife Back
July 19, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Do you want to get your wife back? Whether you are separated or divorced there are some simple strategies that can go a long way in winning your ex back. The first thing to do is to step back and realize that it is a process that will take some time and you need to be strong enough to stay the course. Along the way you may find it isn’t in your best interest to be back together but we will discuss that later. With that said here are a couple of simple strategies to get your wife back.
First, step back from the relationship for a while, at least for a couple of months. The time away will work wonders for the relationship. Make some friends, take up a hobby, have some fun and forget about women for a while. Take this time out to establish some new skills when it comes to meeting new friends and interacting with them.
Why? Winning your ex back is about restoring intimacy. If you are both still in the heat of a divorce or separation intimacy relationships will are almost impossible to establish. In the near future once everything has settled down, you will want to start seeing her casually and establish dating intimacy.
Second, after a couple of months or so ask yourself an honest question. Do I want to get my ex back? If the answer is yes, or if you want to explore the possibility then call her up and ask her out on a date. Wow it’s gonna blow her mind. But after the separation she may be thinking the same thing you are.
If she says yes take it real slow. Don’t jump into the sack and start living together again. Establish dating intimacy through an emotional connection. Don’t be easy to get but definitely do not play games or over do it. She will pick up on that and drop you quick. Your goal in this phase is restoring intimacy, not pushing her further away.
That’s it. Take time and date her again. Intimacy relationships take caring, time, and effort and if you really want to get your wife back this is how to start. Get her to be your new girlfriend first, then move to the next level.
Need to Get Your Boyfriend Back ?
June 19, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Ok Lets talk about some strategies to Get your Boyfriend Back. First as a guy myself I probably know more than most what it takes to get my interest back, and as a “normal” guy, whatever that means, I expect other guys are the same. Here are a few pointers to get started winning your ex back and rekindle that dating intimacy:
First: Keep things new and fresh. Make sure you smell good, look good and have a lively, but not too lively, air about you – like you are excited about “Your” future. That will get him to reconsider by itself. Also, when you do see him change things up in the way you dress. Most guys like variety. Not to mean different women, but variety in the same woman. Actually, this type of behavior and attitude will definitely help you also in terms of self esteem and in entering any intimacy relationships. If possible make sure he sees you doing other things and participating in other activities, but don’t show signs of infidelity as it will turn him away. You don’t want him to think you are laying around at home waiting for him but also that you aren’t going out with everyone on the block – like your taking some time off for yourself.
Second: Don’t rush in even if he wants you to. Don’t play hard to get or anything like that but there is no need to rush back into the relationship. If he all of a sudden wants to get back gently question him about it. What has changed? Is he ready for a balanced and respectful relationship now?
Third: This goes along with the First and Second point. Keep your conversations relatively brief so he gets the understand he is not your highest priority right now. That really makes Men crazy, trust me. It makes men strive for more intimacy in dating when you finally decide to date him. If you are talking to him at a party or function and friends of yours walk up, start talking to them and let him wait for you. Flirt with him a little bit here and there but don’t over do it. Periodically bring up fond memories you and him shared but don’t revel in them with him. You want him to feel like he needs to work a little bit to get you back but not that it is impossible to get you back. After all, you do want to get back with your boyfriend, right?
These are some great tips to get started to get your boyfriend back. This should put you in a position that you are his good and hopefully best female friend, which is where you want to be. There are lots more strategies to follow and as you know I endorse TW Jackson’s “The Magic of Making Up”.
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